Facebook is mulling over letting children below the age of 13 join  its network, but with so many signed up already, what difference would  it make? FACEBOOK'S 
minimum age should be 21. This argument  mooted by 
CNN blogger John D. Sutter will no doubt get the support of  many parents who worry about safety and privacy issues on the social  media network. That is, those parents who have not secretly signed up,  or helped to sign up, their children on Facebook.
Facebook (FB)  already has an age limit 13 years old but the reality is that many  “underaged” children already have their own profiles on the site,  parents' consent notwithstanding.
In fact, it is estimated that  some 7.5 million children below the age of 13 are currently on FB, out  of its total 900 million plus users worldwide.
This shows that  the minimum age requirement on FB is just a number. Facebook does  little, if anything, to enforce it, and one can simply lie about their  birth date to circumvent the rule.
So why the charade?
As suggested by the 
Wall Street Journal,  which first broke the news of the social media giant's plans to open up  to tweens and even younger kids, Facebook was feeling the heat from the  American authorities in relation to the 
Children's Online Privacy  Protection Act (COPPA).
The Act stipulates that online services  catering to children below 13 would need to obtain the consent of their  parents before collecting data from them. COPPA also requires that  parents be given the ability to review, revise and delete their  children's data.
Hence, with the number of pre-teen children  registering on the site growing by day, Facebook knows it can no longer  turn a blind eye to its minefield. Coming clean is perhaps its only  option in defending itself from any potential legal action.
As it  acknowledged in a statement: “Enforcing age restriction on the Internet  is a difficult issue, especially when many reports have shown that  parents want their children to access online content and services.”
Facebook 
founder Mark Zuckerberg himself had earlier said he would like to see kids under 13 use FB “more honestly and in compliance with the law”.
“My  philosophy is that for education you need to start at a really, really  young age... Because of the restrictions, we haven't even begun this  learning process... If they're lifted then we'd start to learn what  works. We'd take a lot of precautions to make sure that they (younger  kids) are safe...,” he was quoted.
The conspiracy theorists of  course say freeing the shackles is one way for Facebook to recoup its  losses after a disappointing debut at the share market. Widening its  user base will certainly broaden its revenue-raising opportunities,  especially in the mobile apps and ad sector, and add to its market  value.
Then there is the brand loyalty factor getting them young  is the best way to get users hooked for the future, and guard against  any possible defection to “cooler” social media networks to come.

Whatever the motive, the reality remains stark there is a high number of active FB tweens and they can no longer be ignored.
Choy: Many parents of children who are being bullied online feel they can’t do anything about it. Time to LikeAs he sees it, officially opening up to the under-13s can be a positive move, says CyberSecurity Malaysia 
chief executive officer Lt Col (R) 
Prof Datuk Husin Jazri.
“By officially allowing children to sign up, Facebook can keep tabs on how many Facebookers below 13 there are,” he opines.
In  Malaysia, for instance, it is no secret that many tweens have their own  FB accounts, with most having signed up either with the consent and  help from their parents, siblings or close relatives; or by “cheating”  Facebook, that is, changing their birth date to make the computer system  accept them as above 13.
It is not clear how many Malaysian  children are now online but with some 12.5 million Malaysian FB users  recorded this year, it is safe to say that there are many.
In  fact, global social media and digital analytics company Socialbakers  estimated that some 2.2% of Malaysian Facebookers were aged 13 and below  last August (around 248, 528). That is a rough estimate at best; with  our below-18 population totalling up to 11.2 million (approximately 2.87  million children are in primary school), it is difficult to pinpoint  how many FB minors are signed up on a fake age.
Malaysian Communications and Multimedia Commission (MCMC) 
chairman Datuk Mohamed Sharil Tarmizi agrees that removing the token age restriction is perhaps the most effective way to protect our children on Facebook.
This will create openness among the tweens and their parents, says Sharil.
“Children  will not need to hide that they have FB accounts any more and would be  encouraged to share their online experiences with their parents. If they  do not bypass the protection measures (as kids nowadays are very IT  savvy), the children should get the age appropriate online protection  they need against the adult world' of Facebook,” he adds.
However,  both agree that this will only be effective if Facebook fulfils its  commitment to introduce a new suite of tools for parents to keep their  children safe when they register a FB account and interact on the social  networking site.
Sharil, who is also vice-chairman of the 
International Telecommunications Union (ITU) 
Council Working Group on Child Online Protection (COP), a specialised organ of the 
United  Nations based in 
Geneva, Switzerland, reminds parents that children are  minors first and foremost.
“Children under 13 are typically in the primary school group and need extra supervision, guidance and care,” he stresses.
Husin  proposes that specific accounts for those below 13 be created with  suitable contents and safeguards to enable parents and guardians to  continually provide assistance as well as monitor the online activities  of these young Facebookers.
 Sharil:  ‘Children need guidance and supervision. Online tools and technologies  can never replace the care and guidance that parents can give’
 Sharil:  ‘Children need guidance and supervision. Online tools and technologies  can never replace the care and guidance that parents can give’ “Facebook  for those below 13 should be categorised as a special account,  different from the adult Facebook accounts. They should introduce some  kind of system to ensure that the children obtain parental consent  before they get accepted to sign up, and whenever a child requests for  or accepts a new Facebook friend, parents should be alerted,” he adds.
Dangerous playgroundStill, as many parents would be deigned to admit, no matter how vigilant you are, it is still a big bad Web out there.
“Parents  can only guide and monitor their children, they cannot really change  the environment,” says a father-of-three who only wants to be known as  Arshavin.
You will still need the help of the policy makers and  service providers, among others, to make the Internet, and specifically  Facebook, safe for children, he adds.
“No matter how well-trained or educated your children are, some places are just off limits, even if you go there with them.
“I  read this one comment that I think captures it well will you let your  elementary school child attend a college or adult party?'. You won't,  right?” he poses, warning that some parents might be lulled by a false  sense of security for their children on Facebook if the new ruling is  implemented.
Social media specialist Jasmin Choy agrees,  highlighting cyber-bullying as one danger for young children on FB. The  problem is intensified as many parents are not equipped to deal with it,  she says.
“Many parents of children who are being bullied online  feel they can't do anything about it. Then there are those who just  don't know what is happening to their kids in cyberspace, or those who  are not giving enough guidance to their kids and are becoming bullies  online,” she says.
Opposing the social media network's plans to  open up their membership for children under 13, the mother of two  relates a recent cyber-bullying case close to her heart.
“It  happened to a friend's child who is sensitive and fragile. She was  already being subtly bullied online when the girls ganged up on her and  made her feel like she was stupid. The problem was, the mother didn't  know what to do about it. If she intervened, the daughter would be very  embarrassed. On the other hand, if the mum didn't intervene, these girls  would go on bullying her daughter.”
Another red flag for children, she warns, is online porn and sexual predators.
“Many  parents have no idea how much porn is being served up to the kids  online. They think they have some idea but are often shocked when they  discover how accessible porn is to their six- to13-year-olds.”
As Choy highlights, one only needs to go to some of the game apps on FB to receive porn advertisements.
“Many  pop up even on innocent-looking Facebook games. Besides, curious kids  are going to share images and if there's FB and Twitter they will see  it,” she says, advising parents to “prepare” their children by educating  them about the birds and the bees at an early age.
“We can't be prudish about it. They are going to see it anyway, so why not explain to them before trouble brews.”
The main danger she foresees, however, is the breach of privacy.
“Think  about all the times we chatted with a young kid on FB. We must have at  least mentioned the child's name, asked them how their day was... things  like that. We tend to forget the dangers when we are having fun online.  Bad people can easily glean information from the chats the adults have  with young kids on FB posts,” she says.
Choy also strongly  believes that pre-teens are particularly vulnerable because most do not  have the maturity to handle problems related to FB or be aware of the  dangers.
“Even if they are aware of the dangers, they can't often  see the danger in front of them. Even adults don't react fast enough to  FB risks, what more children of that age,” she says.
Along with  the threat of paedophiles, there is also worry that young children will  be subjected to unscrupulous advertisers and marketers on Facebook, or  have their personal data sold to advertisers.
Not surprisingly,  Zuckerberg has already been lobbied by a coalition of consumer, privacy  and child advocacy groups to keep children's data confidential and the  site ad-free for the below-13s in the United States.
For bank officer Aslina, addiction is her big worry.
“Just  like adults, kids tend to spend way too much time on Facebook and can  get addicted to it. Instead of studying or socialising with friends and  playing games or sports, they will be logged on FB.”
And,  cautions teacher Mary K, parents might not be able to withstand another  pressure should FB open its doors to pre-teens peer pressure.
“Now they will be pressured to join because all their friends are on it. It will be a difficult time for parents, “ she says.
Arshavin agrees.
“I  asked my 16-year-old daughter why she is on FB, and she said it was to  watch what her friends are up to. But when I asked her to log off, she  just whined about what she would be missing,” he says.
Calling FB  a “different beast altogether”, Choy who is a proponent of the Internet  as a study tool vows to keep her children away from it as long as she  can.
“I really believe all young kids should have access to the Internet. My six-year-old can 
Google search for any information related to his hobbies or studies at any  time with the tablet. YouTube has given him access to various  documentaries he can watch and learn from. And why not? Technology and  the Internet have made learning exciting. It has allowed my children to  think out of the box. I just don't think they should have an FB account  at an early age,” she says.
If parents do decide to let the child  open a FB account, she adds, they would need to constantly talk to them  about the hazards and teach them good cyber habits.
“Explain  over and over again why they should not reveal sensitive information  like their names, location of the moment and place of residence. And  check, check, check their FB settings,” she stresses.
And constantly but silently read their children's postings to check for trouble, she adds.
This is something Alina does diligently with her two pre-teen children who are registered on FB.
“In  the beginning, I was worried that I was making the wrong decision to  let them get their own profiles on FB. But I read up on it and made sure  that I know what is in store for them. Then I went through all the  safety and security features available on FB with them before we  registered.”
Most importantly, she adds, she always reminds them to be as cautious online as they would be in the real world.
Sharil  agrees children should be taught as early as possible that rules and  regulations exist online just as they do offline, and that there are  dangerous areas online just as there are dangerous areas or things in  the real world.
It is parents' responsibility to cultivate  security awareness in their children and educate them on safe Internet  usage, says Husin.
“Parents must be alert of any unusual  activities of their children on the Net and take the appropriate action  to rectify if their child gets caught in any undesirable activities  online.”
Sharil, however, reiterates that parents are the best judge of whether their child is ready for Facebook themselves.
“It  all goes back to the basic skills of parenting and instilling good  moral values in their children. Children need guidance and supervision.  Only parents can do this effectively. Teachers, NGOs and the broader  community can help but they can never replace the parent,” he notes.
Crucially, parents are at the frontlines of their children's defence, says Sharil.
“Parents  should continue to monitor their children's online activities while  encouraging appropriate online behaviour. They should not totally depend  on Facebook's parenting' facilities. Online tools and technologies can  never replace the care and guidance that parents can give.”
Ultimately,  he adds, it is extremely important for parents and guardians to become  good role models for their children when they are online.
By HARIATI AZIZAN sunday@thestar.com.my